Journal Challenge Day 17: Something That's Stuck With You.
I live by inspirational quotes. All the quotes on my "Favorite Quotes" blog, but then there's so many more. Also, I was a hospice aid for years, you know what old dying people love to do, pass on their wisdom. Their last chance to impact someone and guys, if you ever are faced with a hard decision go sit with someone whos dying. They will be so real and blunt with you, they will make you understand how short life really is.
One thing that stuck with me is actually a story I heard at a funeral for one of my clients. Due to Hippa regulations, I can't use their names, so I will call this client Milly and her daughter we'll call Amy. So Amy was giving a speech about her mother and it was a story about a past interaction where she was giving relationship advice. When Milly was younger, she and her husband went fishing, Milly hadn't fished before but her husband really wanted her to go so she did. He was excited about a new fishing rod that he'd gotten recently and he was letting Milly use it, but when she went to cast a line the whole fishing rod went in the river. Milly, of course, felt horrible because she had a heart of gold. She was apologizing profusely and all her husband said was; "It's okay, it's just a thing." So she said to her daughter; "Find yourself a man who says, it's just a thing."
First of all, that's so fucking cute. I love them. I love the fact that he thought she was so much more important than this thing, this fishing rod that he'd just gotten and was so proud of but Milly and her feelings were more important. That's just so pure to me. I've been in situations like that, where I've accidentally broken or damaged or lost something of someones and they make you feel horrible about it. I understand that people get attached to things and a lot of people are more sentimental than I am, but items can't feel bad, they don't miss you when you lose them. Items can't cry or love you even, there just things. People are so much more important then people understand.
Another thing is actually a quote I found on Pinterest, and again I have no idea who said it first so you're S.O.L. there. The quote says; "We all have a little 'I want to save the world in us' but we need to understand that it's okay if we can only save one person, and it's okay if that one person is you." Again with the beautifulness of the word 'okay'. Whoever first said this, thank you. Those words are amazing. Everyone wants to be the one who makes a difference in the world, I know I do. We all want to be the good and spread awareness to things close to our hearts. Life is beautiful but it's not kind, and it's not fair. I wrote a poem once and it said "I wish I was still the same little girl, the one with eyes so wide, and a heart so whole. So much faith and trust in my surroundings, but the world change you with all of its rules and groundings. Eventually, your views start to sway, your eyes get tired from being so open, and yore heart begins to fray." There are so many things that exist only to break you down, to hinder your chances of being that person who actually does make a difference. Look at kids, they have confidence like none other, but that rarely lasts throughout your life. We get torn down time after time, and we don't get a Clark Kent to fly by and pick us up we have to find the strength to save ourselves.
This next one is kind of an extension of the last but it's the idea but happiness is a choice, it's not up to anyone but ourselves. I used to be so bad at that, I used to blame everyone and everything for my misery. I used to think well my job is horrible, these clients are so mean or ungrateful (sometimes they were though, some people are just not decent human beings), or I would say my past relationship was making so unhappy and he was this, that, or whatever. I could've left whenever I wanted to. We have so much power over ourselves, we have the ability to change literally every aspect of our lives. If you hate your job, quit. If you're unhappy with a relationship, leave, get divorced, whatever you have to do. Sure getting divorced is a little pricey, but are you really going to set a price for a better state of mind? If you don't like your kids, you're on your own there, don't abandon them. If you want to learn something new, youtube. You don't like your body, eat a carrot, go to the gym, go on a walk. We psych ourselves out because we get caught in this comfort bubble. We say; well, I only have so many more years of work, is it worth getting a new job? Or I'm 30 some odd years old, I can't leave my husband of ten years, because I'm past my prime, I don't want to date, is there anyone decent still out there? Stop. Stop doing that to yourselves, you're self-sabotaging. I know, I do it all the fucking time. But my life last year was drastically different then what it is now because I'm choosing to put myself first and choose happiness. It's not easy and it's taken time to get here but I fricken did it and you can too. Please recruit me to give a ted talk, I'm ready.
That's all I can really think of at the moment, I'll probably think of more things later. Thanks for reading, share with me things the stuck with you if you want to!
-Courtney :)
One thing that stuck with me is actually a story I heard at a funeral for one of my clients. Due to Hippa regulations, I can't use their names, so I will call this client Milly and her daughter we'll call Amy. So Amy was giving a speech about her mother and it was a story about a past interaction where she was giving relationship advice. When Milly was younger, she and her husband went fishing, Milly hadn't fished before but her husband really wanted her to go so she did. He was excited about a new fishing rod that he'd gotten recently and he was letting Milly use it, but when she went to cast a line the whole fishing rod went in the river. Milly, of course, felt horrible because she had a heart of gold. She was apologizing profusely and all her husband said was; "It's okay, it's just a thing." So she said to her daughter; "Find yourself a man who says, it's just a thing."
First of all, that's so fucking cute. I love them. I love the fact that he thought she was so much more important than this thing, this fishing rod that he'd just gotten and was so proud of but Milly and her feelings were more important. That's just so pure to me. I've been in situations like that, where I've accidentally broken or damaged or lost something of someones and they make you feel horrible about it. I understand that people get attached to things and a lot of people are more sentimental than I am, but items can't feel bad, they don't miss you when you lose them. Items can't cry or love you even, there just things. People are so much more important then people understand.
Another thing is actually a quote I found on Pinterest, and again I have no idea who said it first so you're S.O.L. there. The quote says; "We all have a little 'I want to save the world in us' but we need to understand that it's okay if we can only save one person, and it's okay if that one person is you." Again with the beautifulness of the word 'okay'. Whoever first said this, thank you. Those words are amazing. Everyone wants to be the one who makes a difference in the world, I know I do. We all want to be the good and spread awareness to things close to our hearts. Life is beautiful but it's not kind, and it's not fair. I wrote a poem once and it said "I wish I was still the same little girl, the one with eyes so wide, and a heart so whole. So much faith and trust in my surroundings, but the world change you with all of its rules and groundings. Eventually, your views start to sway, your eyes get tired from being so open, and yore heart begins to fray." There are so many things that exist only to break you down, to hinder your chances of being that person who actually does make a difference. Look at kids, they have confidence like none other, but that rarely lasts throughout your life. We get torn down time after time, and we don't get a Clark Kent to fly by and pick us up we have to find the strength to save ourselves.
This next one is kind of an extension of the last but it's the idea but happiness is a choice, it's not up to anyone but ourselves. I used to be so bad at that, I used to blame everyone and everything for my misery. I used to think well my job is horrible, these clients are so mean or ungrateful (sometimes they were though, some people are just not decent human beings), or I would say my past relationship was making so unhappy and he was this, that, or whatever. I could've left whenever I wanted to. We have so much power over ourselves, we have the ability to change literally every aspect of our lives. If you hate your job, quit. If you're unhappy with a relationship, leave, get divorced, whatever you have to do. Sure getting divorced is a little pricey, but are you really going to set a price for a better state of mind? If you don't like your kids, you're on your own there, don't abandon them. If you want to learn something new, youtube. You don't like your body, eat a carrot, go to the gym, go on a walk. We psych ourselves out because we get caught in this comfort bubble. We say; well, I only have so many more years of work, is it worth getting a new job? Or I'm 30 some odd years old, I can't leave my husband of ten years, because I'm past my prime, I don't want to date, is there anyone decent still out there? Stop. Stop doing that to yourselves, you're self-sabotaging. I know, I do it all the fucking time. But my life last year was drastically different then what it is now because I'm choosing to put myself first and choose happiness. It's not easy and it's taken time to get here but I fricken did it and you can too. Please recruit me to give a ted talk, I'm ready.
That's all I can really think of at the moment, I'll probably think of more things later. Thanks for reading, share with me things the stuck with you if you want to!
-Courtney :)
